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My way to fight Negativity

Negativity is the phenomenon of paying more attention on negative events over positive events. Even the same magnitude of good and bad events happen, the person will generally feels unhappy. Putting it this way:

You lost $5 on the way and picks up $5 accidentally, you choose to moan over your bad luck rather than your good luck. A typically balanced event, why would someone prefers to feel bad instead of good.

Beside being negative and self inflicting mental torment, negative would jolly well be spread around. It affects the people around you, like wise of optimism. And likely hood, these kind of person lack the determination that they can change the situation and complete given up at the first place. More often than not, these people are feeling self depreciated, unwanted, abandoned, worthless and low self esteem.

All in all, everything lead me to believe that being optimistic overweight pessimistic. Maybe I can share some of my personal experience on how to act on negativity.

  1. First, I always remind myself, I am a lucky fellows, to be born perfectly fine with all body parts functionally working. At least my looks don't scare people off on the street, seriously I am contented. Hence I will not be affected by people saying me ugly, bad complexion, fat or what so ever. No one can makes me feel interior unless I allow them to.
  2. Always compare to other more unfortunate people around and see that I am actual no that bad. The things that I had went through, some other had it worst.
  3. Enjoy the very moment, stop swelling on the past or dreaming about the future. Its good to do reflection and planning once in a while. But you didn't realize is that the small little joy around you. Like a good collection of porno and beer to go along. "Life is good" LG motto.
More or less I uses these pointers to counter my negativity. And it always worked. I don't claim myself as extremely enlightened or positive, but I am constantly working on achieving that.

But however, I find that pessimistical view works in certain situation. To be a bit more conservative, I don't assume my outcome to be very optimistic. I provision a little bit in case if I fail, I will not be totally disappointed. Example people ask me how I did for my exam, I answered at a little conservative sides. Unless I am extremely confidence than I will say I did great. Probably can blame that I am a perfectionist.

However, some people always see me as a hypocrite. Fine. Perfectly fine. I am openly evil. I never claim I am a holy shit to begin with. Anyone is flawed, I am on average more evil than kind. Agree.

2010, a new year ahead. May you the all almighty give my friend the strength to overcome his/her difficulties in life and bless them with good spirit and joy.
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